Who is this course for?

Have you come across Boarding School Syndrome and wondered if this is the missing piece of the puzzle?  Maybe you struggle in relationships, find parenting more triggering than expected, or have battled anxiety and depression without fully understanding why. Or maybe you have had counselling before but never looked in depth at your boarding school years or worked with someone who specialises in this area. 

If you spent your formative years in boarding school, your childhood was shaped in ways you may not have fully explored. Some women know their experience was traumatic - they remember the homesickness, bullying, or even abuse. Maybe you appeared to "thrive," and excelled academically, made friends, and adapted outwardly. However you managed it, all boarders share a common reality: being placed in an institution, separated from their families, and learning far too young to rely only on themselves.

This early self-sufficiency, once a survival strategy, may now be playing out in your life in ways you don’t expect; especially in relationships, where deep connection and trust can feel challenging.

This course is for you if you’re ready to go beyond self-help books and your own solo reflection.  You want expert guidance, structure, and a safe space to explore the deeper layers of your experience. You’re seeking not just understanding, but change - alongside a community of women who truly get it.

This is a women-only group, designed with care. Some women feel safer expressing themselves in a female space. Others carry complicated feelings about being in a women’s group, especially if boarding school left them with painful experiences of female dynamics and they may carry their own internal misogyny. That’s why, in our group calls, we gently unpack how these patterns show up and work together to create a space that feels truly safe, and healing.

This isn’t just about looking back—it’s about reclaiming and empowering yourself and stepping into a future that feels freer, fuller, and more connected.

See if any of these below resonate:

• You struggle with self-worth and finding your voice.
  Boarding school taught you to stay quiet and fit in. Now, you battle self-doubt and fear of speaking up, often holding back in conversations, relationships, or work.
• You struggle with balance in intimate relationships.
  You may find yourself either keeping one foot out of relationships, unable to fully commit, or becoming co-dependent, struggling to express your own wants and needs.
• You struggle with emotional connection and trust.
  Trusting and relying on others is difficult, and vulnerability feels uncomfortable. Asking for help doesn’t come naturally.
• You feel disconnected from your body and struggle with shame around your needs.
  You ignore your body’s needs and you may struggle with body image, disordered eating, and self-care feels unnatural.
• You feel disconnected from your sexuality and struggle with intimacy.
  Boarding school suppressed your emotions, including desire. You may feel detached from your body, uncomfortable with intimacy, or carry shame around pleasure.
• You feel "fine" on the outside but disconnected inside.
  You’re competent and independent, yet something feels missing, and you can’t quite name it.

• You have a deep fear of being truly seen.
  You’ve learned to mask your emotions and appear strong. Even in supportive settings, being seen feels uncomfortable.
• Parenting has been more triggering than you expected.
  Your child’s emotional needs overwhelm you, and you fear repeating patterns from your own upbringing. 
• You often feel isolated, even in friendships.
  You struggle to open up, feeling like an outsider in social settings, especially when forming deep female connections.
• You’ve battled anxiety, depression, or burnout for years.
  You often feel exhausted, disconnected, or numb, but you push through because resting doesn’t come naturally.
• You know something from your past is still affecting you.
  Whether you remember the trauma or feel like you “thrived,” trust, connection, and ease are still struggles.
• You yearn for something more.
  You may have ticked some of the boxes of success, but deep down, you long for more connection, ease, and understanding of yourself.

How Will This Course Benefit You?

• Break free from unconscious patterns.
  Understand how boarding school shaped your behaviors, so you can finally choose a different way—one that truly serves you.
• Feel truly seen and supported.
  Join a group of like-minded women who share your experience. As you open up and trust others with your vulnerability, you’ll develop deeper self-compassion.
• Understand and heal your nervous system.
  Learn how Trauma and Complex PTSD show up in the body, and discover practical tools to regulate your emotions and feel more at ease.
• Express your needs with confidence.
  Recognize the different parts of yourself, understand when they show up, and learn to communicate your wants, needs, and desires - knowing they truly matter.
• Create and uphold healthy boundaries.
  Learn what your boundaries are and develop the confidence to assert them without guilt.
• Quieten your inner critic.
  Reduce the harsh, self-critical voice in your head and replace it with kindness and self-acceptance.
• Reconnect with the child you left behind.
  Integrate the younger version of yourself who stood at the school gates, and bring her home with love and understanding.
• Transform shame into self-acceptance.
  Release feelings of unworthiness and step fully into your authentic self with confidence.
• Experience deeper, healthier relationships.
  Improve your connection with your partner, family, and friends. If you’re a parent, you’ll also break generational patterns creating a different experience for your children.
• You no longer have to do this alone.
  This is a space where you’ll be supported, held, and guided so you can finally move forward with more ease, connection, and self-trust.